Hang Up the Phone*

Gothamist has a great post today about how long to wait (or not to wait) before calling someone. My personal take on the matter is that you should call when you feel like calling. Generally speaking, if you both like each other, the callee will be happy to hear from the caller. If you don't both like each other, or one person likes the other more, then a too soon or too late call may have an impact on someone's opinion. Similar to the guidelines about who pays on dates, however, each person has his or her own rules about what "too soon" or "too late" actually means. That said, I am often advised by my esteemed council of advisors to chill out and wait in terms of calling people. This is because I am not good at masking my interest, or as a friend pointed out, I "hide [my] lack of indifference rather badly. . . which is endearing, so don't worry." Damn straight. In my opinion, the right person for me will not be "scared off" by my enthusiasm, and will, in fact, find it endearing. And on a related note -- don't tell me you're going to call me if you're not. I was telling a friend recently that, if a guy asks for my phone number, I assume that there's a 50/50 chance that he'll actually call. Call me jaded, but it's true. Some advice, gentlemen -- don't ask for a number if you don't plan on using it. Agreed?

What are your rules about calling someone?

* and speaking of scary 80's trivia. . . I used to LOVE this song by Annie Golden, which is featured in Sixteen Candles.

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[Laren]

By the way, I can't believe that nobody had anything to say about their rules for calling people . . .